Think. Feel. Live.

It is not so easy to see people's point of view from your side alone.  In other words, it is too easy to quickly make a judgement, yet it is nearly impossible to see a situation with the same severity, passion, and forgiveness as it is when you, yourself, is involved in the relationship.

Whenever I hear anything from others, I always try to understand their perception-- their state of mind-- because this allows me to understand the situation from their light, their mindset.  Believe in it or dont, but I often think of a person's astrological sign when considering their persona.  Sure, its not 100% science, but more often than not, a person's behavior reflects their sign.  Maybe it's bullshit, maybe you percieve it as imaginative, but regardless, it works for my relationships thus I will continue seeing things as such. 

Long story short, It's easy to judge others.  It's easy to see a side they are unable to see.  And vice versa. 

I just hope that one day we, as humanity, start trying to see through another's eyes.  That we are able to let our own personalities/ experiences/ childhoods/ opinions/ views/ GO...and attempt to see through another's perspective how hard things can be before we quickly make a judgment

You can  give your opinion on any particular situation, relationship, experience, but we will never be able to fully understand what it means...what it is... what it feels like... until we are in that very same situation.

Therefore, when giving advice, or simply listening to a friend's problems, try to stop. think. understand.  Before you say anything judgmental or nonchalant, try to understand the pain, the heartache, the situation the person is feeling.  It's easy to say "walk away!  Duh."  But it isn't necessarily so easy to do so.

THINK. Before you assume.

FEEL. Before you speak.

LIVE. Before you judge.

^^This is why my friends know they can always talk to me and I will never judge, assess, or blast their relationships.  No relationship is easy-- if someone says it's all happiness & love, they are lying... or they are lacking some serious passion.  Love isn't easy.  When you can admit that, you can have a realistic relationship.  Don't be afraid to talk to your friends because sometimes it is necessary to have some female perspective.  Just make sure they are friends who listen without judging the situation.  If you are the listening friend, don't forget to put yourself in another's shoes before judging how easy the situation is.